Navigating Life’s Toughest Moments: Steps to Conquer Reality

Our life definitely has its fair share of tough realities, and most of the times, it’s hard to even keep up. I know that it’s hard to face reality, as more often than not, we find something that we cannot really face or accept. If we do this, how could we be better then? Contemplate it some more and you’ll really doubt the answer. Believe me when I say that if we stay positive and resilient, we can definitely conquer and accept life’s realities.

As such, allow me to share what I have realized about life thus far and what I did to manage them.

People will Make Time for Those Things That They Find Valuable to Them.

Whether it is a family, potential partner, friend, or even a recruiter, no one is too busy if they think you are someone important. In these scenarios, do not wait for them to reply as you might be waiting for an eternity and that message won’t really come. Rather, I suggest that you put your time and energy into the things that will be worth your time.

We are only here on earth once and once we just waste it on things or people that aren’t worthy of our time, then regret is another hard pill to swallow—the only difference being you don’t have the time anymore. By letting go of people who are just taking up wasted space should be let go—and through this, we would be able to free up this space for those people who will make an effort to make their presence known.

Don’t be a People Pleaser Because It’s Impossible to Please Everyone.

We can never please or satisfy everyone ever. Not everyone will like you for you, and that there will always be someone who is not a fan of your choices or your character—and that’s perfectly okay.

Instead of putting your attention on other people, waiting for them to like you, why not put your time and energy on those people or things that truly matter to you. It may be hard at first, if you have been a people pleaser, but you must have the courage to always choose what is best for you.

People Will Always Think of Themselves First as an Instinct.

Though there are those people who are utterly kind and compassionate, they may feel overloaded too and just pick themselves first before you.

As I’ve experienced, people demand more of me than I can give them. It sometimes made me question my worth, especially if I think that I was being taken advantage of—and it’s not a great feeling, believe me. From there, I began setting clear boundaries between myself and others and saw a great deal of difference. I know that it may seem like you are letting them down, however the consequences are more severe if you tolerate them. More than this, I’ve found that real courage actually lies in knowing when to say “no” to someone.

You aren’t Entitled to Anything from the World; It Owes you Nothing.

We should have known this from the start. We can be the best of what we do—the smartest, the coolest, the kindest, or the strongest person the world has ever seen—but if this falls under perceptive eyes, if no one acknowledges this, it won’t change a thing.

At this juncture, you will be left with two choices whether you go on with your life complaining about life being unfair and not getting what you deserve, or explore the world and pursue whatever you want, whether you get success or not. With these choices alone, which path are you inclined to choose? Between these options, which path do you think successful people take?

Don’t Always Make Excuses or Justify Things for Yourself.

This is probably what I’ve struggled with before and the reason why I am sharing this to you now. It is incredibly easy to blame the circumstances that we are in or even the people around us when we feel that we aren’t doing good. But you know the truth is much farther than that. There will always be a valid reason why we are living the way that we are living now, and it’s not about our environment or the people we have interacted with, it’s about the choices we made.

Our Lives are Shaped by our Actions, not by our Thoughts.

I know this is the same with you too, but I haven’t seen anyone become okay if they only think that they’ll be okay. Life, in order to progress with anything, requires some real action. Even if you have the best plan in mind, complete with all contingencies, it becomes futile if you’ll not put it into action. If we don’t do anything, our plans will just become figments of our imagination, never seeing the light of day. This goes to also saying that our lives are defined by our actions, not by our thoughts.

We are all Heroes of Ourselves.

I’ve said this earlier in this article, but I think it’s worth reiterating at the end—you are your own hero—and nobody else can save you from your own life. So when life throws us challenges that could seem beyond our control, it’s easy to always hope for the quick fix—a miracle—but it has been proven time and time again that it’s only you who can fix it, and that is by doing something.

Considering all these, I think it’s quite obvious that life simply does not work that way—it’s not as easy as 1-2-3. There will always be challenges, risks, and uncertainties, all of which are inevitable, and sometimes, there just won’t be any magic solutions.

During these times, I hope that you find comfort in knowing that you can take control of your life, and that by being proactive and confident, you’ll be able to face whatever it is that comes your way. Always remember that success comes from your own experience and efforts and not from outside help or intervention.